Today we visited my great grandparents in Clarksville for their birthdays. Not just their birthdays, we try our hardest to visit once a week so we would've been up visiting regardless. I decided to bring along my camera and try to capture some candid moments.
A few things worth noting:
- A former navy cook who served in WW2
- A woodworker and self-confessed Menards shopaholic
- A spunky old man
- Maker of chocolate turtles and sugar pecan cookies
- A caretaker
- A painter and a lover
- A clean freak
- A hardass
- A bossy old lady
- Someone with alzheimer's
When my son, Finn was born we made it our mission to visit once a week. It's not an easy task- if you know anyone with alzheimer's you know that they aren't the easiest to deal with. Umma is disappearing before our eyes. Her days are taken over by picking lint off the carpet and telling Umpa to change the temperature over and over again. There's nothing quite like sitting across from your great grandma and having her ask who you and your son are. How hard it can be to not cry when you inform her that it's her great great grandson.
Today my mom and siblings came with me to visit and brought Scratch Cupcakes to celebrate their birthdays. Last year they didn't know if they would be here to celebrate their next Birthday party, and the year before that, and the year before that. Every holiday they say it might be their last. Every holiday for us is bittersweet. Every time we visit we soak in their presence.
Their house will not remain in the family after they're gone. Their house will go to the government, and eventually to someone who will probably give it a renovation. They will walk in and see the ugly pink shag carpet in the guest room, the ugly wood paneling with a mission to rip it all up.
This house, that was originally only a basement until they built the upper level themselves, the wood shop in the backyard that built my dollhouse, dresser, nightstand, potty training chair and more. This house that hosted family Christmas for so many years until my grandparents couldn't handle hosting anymore. This house means something. It's beautiful and unique in it's own way and no one is going to love it like Umma and Umpa do. I set out to document these little moments and details because it's these things we forget.
Contact me if you think that something unposed and candid is something that would better suit your family! Don't let these moments pass you by without documenting, because you're going to be so thankful you have something timeless to look back on. I LOVE getting away from posed portraits, I love those candid little moments that make your family special. Let's talk.